Their are many things patients and families may grief that are not related to death. Disenfranchised grief occurs when there is a loss that may go unacknowledged by others like moving or immigrating, missing out on important milestones or events, or the death of a pet or friend. It is critical to expand our definition of grief to include disenfranchised losses so we can support families holistically and sensitively.
Sure, grief is love. But sometimes grief is not love. Sometimes it is the absence of love. Sometimes it is the love we craved from a parent that never came. Sometimes it is the love we put into another person and never received in return.